Why are you still single in Mumbai?

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A deep sense of freedom, liberation from the shackles of emotional bonding-being single has definitely transported me to a different plane but how long before loneliness and longing raise its ugly head wondered Sameera as she sat alone in her two room apartment with a cup of coffee in her hand which was turning cold just like the way her emotions had thanks to her prolonged single status. The happily ever after factor lurked prominently in Sameera's sub conscious mind but it never surfaced for Sameera to make a conscious effort to find a perfect date? The Single tag was not necessarily a matter of choice in Sameera's case but rebuffing dating chance for the fear of being tied down left her in a state of loneliness and despair.

Shaping your destiny or finding a date is definitely in your hands. Set the fear factor aside and all you single people today will soon find a partner in hand. Here are a few scenarios which may help single boys and girls of today to find a date or possibly a true love.

Scaling the career ladder, coping with the stress levels at office/college not to mention a never-say-die streak that is omnipresent in every young adult in Mumbai, it becomes increasingly difficult to live up to certain expectations. Dating or finding a partner in today's rigmarole called life seems to be an incredulous task. If everybody's outlook towards life resembled that of Sameera's then Mumbai's percentage of singles would have outnumbered a collective total of single adults from all the other metros. All you singles out there, have you ever introspected about your single status?. For those yearning to change their seemingly permanent single tag, here are a few tips you may like to embrace. A conscientious effort and a willingness to find a perfect date can yield results sooner than you realize.

Use your time management skills and find a calm place for yourself and make a list of traits you would like a potential date/partner to have. Resist the temptation to exaggerate your traits when you make a list of things you can offer. The next step would be to find the right places where you would find a date with similar traits in your list. For instance, your office or college canteen, a coffee shop, a book store or even an art gallery could be the ideal ground to meet like minded people in Mumbai. High levels of confidence and an eagerness to make a relationship work is a pre requisite before you start dating or enter into a long term relationship. An unsettled mood or the fear of heartbreak can spoil your dating experience even before it begins. What you give out will come back to you. So a positive approach is crucial for you to make your mark and bring your talents to the attention of your date. Your optimism should stay high and allow things to occur naturally Once the fear of heartbreak is fixated in your mind, it will be rather difficult to overcome failure at any cost. There could be muddles and glitches but make sure you are staying on your toes and you will soon see yourself riding on a wave of confidence and feeling triumphant.

Dating and Romance will definitely wade into your life if the demands or specifications in your wish list of your ideal man do not go over the top. This factor is often found to be a big deterrent for a single person to enter into a relationship. If your wish list of an ideal date is filled with too many specific traits, then your search for a partner will remain as a search forever. Don't get too carried away and allow yourself to be open to new experiences. Take the initiative with the old adage of opposites attract and it will rake in results.

Relaxing time at home will do your stamina a world of good after a hard day's work but staying indoors most of the time may not help you in meeting new people or finding a date in Mumbai. Every time you sit in front of the television changing channels, ask yourself whether you really want to spend your evening in front of the idiot box? Your heart will give you hints about what you really ought to be doing. The more you step out the greater the chances of finding a date or a partner in Mumbai. If your confidence has taken a backseat then its time to work your way out and reinvent yourself. Do things that make you look good and you will automatically feel good. Self Indulgence can do wonders to your personality if done within specific limits. Go shopping, buy new clothes, get a new hair do and attend personality development classes. In some cases even listening to good soothing music or seeing a light hearted movie can do wonders. A make over with a change in attitude will not only make you feel better about yourself but you will find yourself more attractive to other people in Mumbai too.

Finding a date is a possibility only if you allow your ex to remain in the past. How can you create a future if you carry excess emotional baggage of your previous relationships? Entwining your past with the present can affect the prospects of all your future relationships too. Be it a casual date or a long term relationship, move slowly, weigh the pros and cons and be steadfast in your commitment. Upheavals are inevitable in a relationship but lay your cards on the table and insist your date/partner do the same and you will soon find your relationship improving.

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