Dating opportunities and options are plenty in Mumbai. Tanya, a young graphic designer proudly proclaims "Getting a date is no big deal actually'. After a pregnant pause she sheepishly adds "but most of the guys whom I have dated don't seem to linger on beyond 2 dates, I wonder why? I guess most of them are not worthy of my company" she concludes. This narcissistic attitude found among the young adults of today could be the reason for nipping a relationship in its bud. Have you ever wondered why is it so difficult to find a perfect match/date or let me rephrase it Are you dateable is the question you should be asking yourself? Toss that halo of grandeur while you do a little bit of introspection. This may probably help you in find the answers about how dateable you are!
So here are some smart strategies to make you more dateable than ever before. The oft quoted adage of a smile increasing your face value works wonders in any situation. An overtly happy exterior peps up even the gloomiest atmosphere. A smile on your face can spread an aura of joy the moment you step into a room. Your cheerfulness can induce positive vibrations into a gloomy face and turn it into a smiling one! There would be certain instances in your life, where sadness could be on the upswing but before your state of melancholy takes contagious proportions, it would be pretty safe to say that you are saturating the air through your negativity! Being a part of self help groups or hobby classes could be an option to divert your mind from the negative factors influencing your life. Face the happy and sad moments in your life with equal gusto. In the process you will discover a new 'you' and may also find the 'other half' you are looking for.
Why do most of your prospective dates disappear after a first date? Have you realized that one of the reasons may be your past lurking excessively into your present? Your past relationships though null and void can cast dark shadows in your present relationship. If you are unable to finish a sentence without mentioning your ex you are giving off signs that you are emotionally committed. Let bygones be bygones. If you want your present partner to be interested, any mention of your past relationships should be strictly avoided. So do not allow your thoughts to stray to 'my ex'. Understanding your finances or the lack of it may not be a sole criterion as far as your being dateable is concerned but flaunting your talent and ensuring the right people know what you can achieve will not only make you a happier person but may turn you into a better catch.
Get a firm grip on your emotions and pushing yourself to earn reflects on how independent, stable for ambitious you are. So awaken the go-getter streak in you and plunge headlong into a job that suits your profile. In Mumbai where job opportunities is directly proportionate to dating opportunities finding a job or starting a career in your area of expertise may actually turn out to be a cake walk.
Apart from financial security, there are higher goals you can aspire for. Aspiring and reaching out for more than you possess will inject a sense of adventure or have stimulating effect on your life. One of the traits your date may look for is your desire to grow as a person. Don't limit yourself to a life which oscillates between home and office. The conversation between you and your partner should not always be about each other's profession. To improve or grow as a person, it is vital to have a dream, set future goals or aspire for higher things like visiting an exotic locale, owning a rare collector's piece or joining an adventure club! In Mumbai where such stimulants are available in plenty, its just a matter of interest and looking at the right place to take you a step closer to your goal!
By putting all your energy towards getting the right kind of date, you may run the risk of losing your personal identity. Never project yourself as overtly dependent on your date, this many not only suffocate your partner but may also send the wrong signal that you put your heart before your head. Taking a keen interest in your partner's hobbies or activities is accepted but developing your own interest or hobbies will keep your personal identification intact in a relationship. The risk of losing your distinctiveness looms large if over dependency creeps in and at times this can aggravate into insecurity also.
Self confidence is one of key deciding factor in determining how dateable you are. Socially you will be on a downslide if you are insecure about a failed relationship or over cautious about the prospects of your present dating experience. If you want changes in place, you will need to ask what you want in a new partner. Take an objective look at your past dating experiences and analyze the reasons for its doom. But living in the past and mooning over failed relationships will take you nowhere. Stepping out of your past without an iota of self-doubt will give you a whole new perspective on what to look for in your present date.
Make a wish list of what you want in your new date. If you haven't made one, this could possibly be the reason for your 'out of circulation' status. However try not to be excessively critical or negative towards people or life, you will soon find yourself short of choices.
