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More recently, television actors are tying knots with their reel life partners. It is becoming a trend these days to date your work colleagues because the city youngsters wrapped in work are finding their work place, a suitable place to find potential date partners. So what is it dating your colleague? Is it a “happy forever” kind of jazz? Well, not exactly!
Dating your colleague can be fun as well as boring. Read more, to find out!
Pros of dating a colleague
Time
In a fast paced world, one keeps lamenting about the lack of time to spend with their loved ones. Work and office, or, College and studies, normally takes away the relaxation period of a person’s life. So, where is the time to find a date? Well, the only time to interact with the opposite sex is in the office or in the college. Bound by the stretches of time, one searches a partner in a colleague. ‘I started dating Manish while we were working at a call center. We got a chance to spend time knowing each other through our professional space. We spent long hours together working,’ reveals Pooja, a call center employee.
Right person to date
Dating must be at the right time, at the right place and with the right person. for most of the city youngsters who spend most of their time working, get to know the “right person” , only at work. Sharing of professional space makes them interact with each other on a daily basis. So the right person to date is easy to find out. Regular chats and meets helps one to know about their choice of the dating partner.
Keep a watch
Once you start dating your colleague, you also tend to act like a watchdog in the office. “I can keep an eye on him all the time! He can’t flirt with any other female colleague in my presence, so I am free of all the tensions!,’ laughs Rita, a bank employee in the city. The fear of a partner ditching you almost evaporates, because you are closely keeping a watch over your Adam or Eve, so that they succumb to no temptations.
Psychological boost at Work Place
Presence of a warm shoulder after a firing from the boss can be very helpful. Abd who else but your partner’s hugs can pacify your feelings. Thus a partner in a work place can act like a stress buster as well as an agony aunt. During depression at work place, a partner almost assumes a role of a counselor. ‘ I feel very secured when Rahul is in the office with me because I know he will be there to take care of me during my not-so-high professional times,’ says Anjali, an employee at an Advertising Agency.
Understanding
Since you share a similar professional space as your partner, there is an understanding between you and your partner about your limitations of time and capability. There are no unnecessary demands from your partner, since he understands your compulsions at the work place. This understanding certainly makes a relationship wiser.
Cons of dating your colleague
Boredom
Interacting with the same person in the office as well as during the recreating hang-outs can lead to boredom. Dating a colleague can lead to sharing professional as well as personal space. This might tend to sour a relation on the basis of its sheer boredom.
Same workplace, same work timings, can almost turn mundane. And your relationship with a colleague may lack surprise and a zing. For example, you cannot surprise your partner by finishing early and lighting candles for a dinner at her place. There is no excitement left in a relationship because the spaces are jammed and there is no place for a surprise.
Fights, fibs and misunderstanding
Since the dating partners spend most of their time together, they tend to fight on impertinent things. ‘I saw my boyfriend flirting with another lady in the office. Though it was harmless flirting, I over reacted and our relation broke off,’ says Nisha, a bank employee. Since the personal and professional lives almost merge in this kind of relation, there are often disagreements on professional fronts, which might lead to fights.
Professional rivalry between partners can also lead to fights. Promotions and job appraisals to one can create a jealous partner. And relationship might just stand strained.
Need for space
At times there is a need to be left alone. But a constant accompaniment of a partner at work as well as during a hangout can result in a carving for some space to breathe. Regular chats with a partner in a office and during night before going to sleep can make a relationship possessed and obsessed, to an extent that the relationship chokes and one eagerly awaits a breath of fresh air.
Just as the city youngsters gear up on the dating front, in offices. It is advisable to know about the pros and cons of a relationship that shares personal as well as professional space.
*Specific details of interviewees withdrawn on personal request
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